Lean into Life
The husband should fulfill his marital duty to his wife and likewise the wife to her husband (
1 Cor. 7:3 ).
Following Jesus and living a life of faith begins with saying ‘yes’. We say ‘yes’ to God’s love for us in Jesus Christ. We say ‘yes’ to what Jesus did for us on the cross. We say ‘yes’ to the grace that forgives sin. We say ‘yes’ to a new way of life in which self is no longer the center of the universe.
On more than one occasion Jesus posed direct questions that invited a simple answer: yes or no. After healing a blind man Jesus asked him “Do you believe in the Son of Man?” (John 9:35). After washing the feet of his closest followers Jesus asked “Do you understand what I have done for you?” (John 13:12). The call to those first disciples was simple, “Come, follow me” (Mark 1:17). This called for more than a spoken answer. It called for a lived ‘yes’ or a lived ‘no.’
The Christian life is launched with ‘yes.’ Yes, we believe. Yes, we understand. Yes, we will go with you. Yes, yes, yes. Given that the Christian life is launched with yes, it is puzzling how quickly and easily we begin to live it with ‘no.’
True enough, Jesus proclaimed the arrival of God’s kingdom by calling for repentance, a word that implies turning away from something, a change of course. To say ‘yes’ to Jesus will inevitably mean saying ‘no’ to something else. Embracing God’s Kingdom means abandoning false kingdoms and rejecting lesser claims to our heart’s affections.
But something has gone seriously wrong when the ‘no’ begins to eclipse the glad ‘yes’ of following Jesus. Far too many people have abandoned the Jesus way because it came to be defined by ‘don’t’ and ‘can’t.’
Don’t do this.
Don’t do that. The tradition in which I came to faith has too often been caricatured as nay-saying, particularly with regard to anything that seemed fun. You
can’t dance, you
can’t play cards, you
can’t go to certain movies. I’m convinced that the Presbyterian Church is heavily populated with refugees from can’t and don’t.
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As we read the New Testament, and especially Paul’s letters, we discover that the Christian community has struggled with this tension from the beginning. In Corinth, the tension was disrupting marriages. The specific problem was two-fold. First, some of the Corinthian Christians thought that being spiritual meant that the physical intimacies and passions of marriage were not consistent with their new-found faith in Jesus. They were remaining married but depriving the spouse of marital intimacy (
7:1-5 ). A second matter had to do with Christians who were married to non-Christians and seeking to divorce their unbelieving spouse (
7:12-16 ).
1 Corinthians 7 is Paul’s corrective to both of these issues in the Corinthian church. His approach to both issues is rooted in the conviction that the Jesus way is more about ‘yes’ than ‘no.’ Paul encourages these Christians to stay married to their spouse, even if that husband or wife is not a follower of Jesus. Paul encourages married Christians to embrace marriage in its fullness, and that includes enjoying each others’ bodies.
Following Jesus means leaning into life. The Jesus way is not distant and aloof. In sending his son to this earth God refused to remain distant and aloof from us. God entered our world. Jesus lived a fully human life, working with his hands, obeying his parents, getting hungry and thirsty, experiencing friendship and rejection, suffering pain and dying a violent death.
To follow Jesus is to willingly encounter and engage the world in which you live. You will not embrace and affirm all that this world offers you – but a spiritual life is not lived by constantly saying ‘no.’ The life of faith is never defined by can’t and don’t
Lean into life today. Love your spouse. Play with your children. Call a friend you haven’t seen in a while. Do your best work. Give yourself to your studies. Enjoy the creation. God looked at all he had made and said “it is very good” (Genesis 1:31). How can we say less?
Prayer:
Gracious God, I want to lean into my life today – every part of it. Let my walk with you be an adventure in embracing all that you have placed in my life: my family, my work, my neighbors and co-workers. Grant discernment in saying ‘no’ and boldness in saying ‘yes’ as I follow you throughout this day. Amen.
Mark H. Crumpler
Pastor for Teaching and Spiritual Formation